Wow!! I'm really very surprised to see the views on this topic .. everybody agrees that live - in is ok as long as they get married at the end .. just like in salaam namaste right?? Saif does propose to her at the end ..
I don't know if u ppl realised but, "the society" that everybody is referring to is u and me .. if we stop commenting / looking down upon ppl who are in a live - in relationship and accept them .. then soceity accepts them ..
Someone here spoke about prostitution .. so if one were to get married and had extra - marital affairs .. is it more respectable than a live -in relationship ? ..
If it is issues about security and support system .. i do agree marriage is better off at most times since u have a family to fall back upon .. (2 in fact .. both parents and in-laws) .. But then, "society" looks down upon love marriages too .. so is that wrong / bad?
And please ppl, don't limit Indian culture to a sari - clad woman with sindhoor on her forehead and mangalsutra round her neck, waiting with a pooja thali on karva chauth for her husband ..
Indian culture is infinitely greater than that .. its about respect, care , love, open hearts and minds .. We need to respect the other person's views and choice ..
That said, it does not mean i consider it great and that everybody should follow it .. it is an individual's choice .. And as far as kids are concerned .. parents shud take care of their kids .. whether they are married or not .. that is a different issue all together ..
Someone said security and name for the relationship .. what security do u get in marriage and i presume we are talking about security for women here ..
financial .. today women earn enough to sustain themselves .. lots of families in India are supported by the woman's earnings ..
emotional .. if the husband does not care .. where is the security? family.. but the same problem can be seen in love marriages too, where the families refuse to accept them ..
i can't think of any other ..
name .. i really don't think that will matter .. how do you know a couple is not married unless they tell you .. relationships are about care, love and commitment .. not names ..
i know its a pretty long story here
... but i wanted to bring all these points across ... and another thing .. i'm not in a live - in relationship .. so i'm not defending myself ..
ma'am u wrote one complete essay and finally agreed to me... thank yu for tht